If you’re reading this you’ve probably had those miserable sleepless nights of sexual rejection. Or perhaps your significant other complained of it.
I want to address this from all sides, so let’s start at the experience…
It normally starts off with a little thought. Anything might set off that thought. Almost like a craving. And like any craving, the more you think about it, the stronger the desire grows. The thing with cravings is that they affect us hormonally, which sends strong signals to our body.
If you have never experienced sexual frustration, count yourself as lucky, because it is pretty miserable. It is like having to go to the bathroom but being told you can’t. This urge eats away at you. It consumes your mind.
It makes you angry and resentful.
It literally hurts. The expression “blue balls” is not just a cute term, your balls actually ache.
Worse still, it can have long term effects of feeling rejected. Without purpose. Hopeless. Depressed.
The tendency when this rejection happens is to express that frustration either by moping or lashing out – but that makes the problem worse because there is nothing more unattractive than a pouter. Women sometimes don’t want to have sex for any number of reasons but when we take it personally it makes us appear immature and not in control of our feelings thus perpetuating the problem.
So the most productive course of action is to tenderly accept it and remember that it is not necessarily a rejection of you. Trust me, this is no easy thing, but it is the only way to help prevent future occurrences. We can’t make her feel guilty.
But the real key is to do our best to avoid these situations in the first place, and it begins with making a woman feel desired.
If she thinks you just want to blow your load into her she will not be receptive. If you tell her you want her more than anything, and that her smell, her touch, her taste enchants you – she is much more likely to participate.
The next time you feel the desire, try shifting your focus. Instead of asking yourself “how can I get laid?”, ask “how can I get her to feel sexy?” When you make her want you, she will be all over you, and you’ll love it! It empowers you to be your best.
A little secret I learned by experience is that women respond well to two things:
1. Passion
2. Tenderness
But they absolutely melt when you artfully combine the two.
I know that some people are limited by biological issues or hormonal imbalances, but in most cases, we can overcome on-going sexual rejection by applying these concepts.