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Maybe some of you can relate to this.

Ever been so madly in love with someone that you overlook their faults and even hold onto hope that some of their quirks will go away in time?

Ever been in love with someone who constantly does damage to themselves and you are left feeling responsible to clean up the mess and protect them from the consequences?

It is an ongoing struggle and strain on your emotions when you care deeply about someone who regularly puts you into moral dilemmas and drastically changes personalities between being sober and not.

When you are deeply in love with someone you naturally want to help and protect them. You want to be the person they come to. And what you fear most is giving up on them.

In many of my blogs I like to provide answers to things I have learned on my way through life, but this is one area in my life that I haven’t figured out. I have just asked myself questions like: am I making the problem worse? Can I spend the rest of my life like this? Does she even understand how difficult this is on me?

There was a line once in Sons of Anarchy, when Jax asked his girlfriend if she loved him, her answer was “I’d stop if I could.”  That is how I feel every day. Sometimes I feel like it is me who needs the help.

Please feel free to leave your experiences and thoughts below. Maybe we can help each other.


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When people look at certain things about me, like my physique or one of my creative outlets they will often praise me simply because it is not an area they have developed themselves. But the truth of the matter is that I realise that I could be a lot farther ahead at this point if I’d started off better years ago. It was not until into my thirties when I discovered the power of doing two specific things to work towards mastery of any field:

1. Learn to be analytical

The more analytical you can become, generally the better you will understand it and be able to apply it. This often means looking to those who have already mastered the field and then breaking things down into their lowest denominators and working to understand why things were done in the exact way they were.

2. Learn proper technique

I’ve written about this before, and it applies in virtually every field. For some people proper technique is intuitive but for most it is not, which is why I feel that those who began formal training/coaching early, or intuitively gravitate towards the proper technique are said to have more “talent” in their area of expertise.

I believe that it is because these two things can be very difficult (yet not necessarily impossible) to master more than one field.

Mastering the basics of technique to achieve physical greatness

SuperHero Physique
superhero_physique by Shawn Buffington


When you hear the term man’s man what images cone to mind?

I think of people like Gerard Butler, Tom Hardy, Stallone, Hugh Jackman and of course Justin Bieber. Okay hopefully it was aparant I was kidding on the last one. There are more I could name, but the important thing is that these are men that other men admire and are drawn to, so let’s take a look at what characteristics and qualities these lads have…

First of all there is the way that they carry themselves. It typically involves a unique combination of confidence, humility and humour. On screen we usually see the fearless and confident side of them that shows a strong outward facade, yet in person they are generally light hearted and grounded.

Guys who go around with a constant “tough guy” scowl are usually doing their own image harm because others see them as a joke; where guys who are able to balance strength and humility are magnetic to both men and women.

Now let’s take a look at them from head to toe… Or rather toe to head. What we are after here is creating the body that all men would like to have and all women would like to HAVE.


Powerful legs and a muscular butt are staples of the man’s man so no more skimping on leg day at the gym. Here are a couple pointers:

  • calves are mostly small muscle diners so they require high volume and greater frequency to grow.
  • Really strive to feel them burn on each set.
  • Glutes / hamstrings are mostly large muscle fibres so they require less volume but heavier loads, I find 4-6 reps works best.
  • Quads are right in the middle and can respond well to both heavy and moderate weights.
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    Torso: lean and muscular. To obtain this type of physique means a combination of eating well and training well. For most guys this means training upper body in the 8-12 rep range, and eating a high protein diet rounded out with fiber, healthy fat and a little bit of complex carbs. A slight caloric deficit will be needed if you are to shed fat in your mid section, and the training mentioned above will bring out your muscles nicely while doing so. Shoulders and arms are small muscle groups that can be trained more a couple times per week where as chest and back are usually best trained once every 5-7 days.


    Face: a strong jawline, and groomed facial hair are considered staples of the manly man. It may seem like a strong jaw is out of your control, but the trick is just to be lean. Facial hair is not necessarily essential, but if you choose to have some it’s best when kept groomed. And no porn star moustaches! Eyebrows should also be maintained but not to extremes. If they are too bushy you look like a slob but is try are razor thin you look like a wimp.


    hair: This will be an indivual thing that suits your features. For some people it means no hair at all, and for others it is shoulder length. But it is always kept under control!

    Finishing touches: cleanliness is next to manliness. Avoid crap like axe, use a nicely scented bodywash, stick deodorant and if you wish a touch of a good quality cologne. Floss regularily too, bad teeth do not a manly man make!

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    Get Sexy in one workout… the Pre-Date pump-up!

    Get Sexy in one workout Part II: The Alpha Pump-up

    SuperHero Physique
    superhero_physique by Shawn Buffington

    SOA – a new Animated webseries

    Gran punch!

    Posted: November 30, 2013 in family, fun

    A little off-topic fun for your weekend!

    We Day

    Posted: November 24, 2013 in family


    Today I joined my daughter for an assembly to something called “we day”. I had never heard of this before, and now that I’ve left the auditorium I still don’t know what the hell it’s meant to be about.

    Here’s what the content included:
    Snippets from a concert where celebrities shouted “change begins with you”, followed by a pimply teenager shouting about “making a difference”; then a couple of charities asking people to join them, a kid with a lisp free-style rapping about something indiscernible, then concluded with the group being led in some krumping routine.

    I challenge any of you to know what the heck that’s supposed to be rallying.

    I suppose what annoyed me is that they kept telling kids to change via songs or raps or whatever, but didn’t actually tell kids HOW to step outside your comfort zone, or ways to build their self-confidence enough to learn how to be selfless.

    So this was just one more piece of evidence to me that our educational system is really messed up. I’m not knocking We Day… How can I since I’m none the wiser as to what it even is.

    I spoke to some of the teachers involved suggestng they help children learn some of these fundamental traits, and also suggested that brief description of WHAT it even is may be helpful, but they just smiled and nodded.

    Oh well, at least I know that my kids are learning these things at home.

    I just read a fairly disturbing article:

    Now this of course isn’t anything new, but it is a good reminder of the way that good intentions can often get bastardized along the road.

    It’s an interesting paradox that the bodybuilding world is at once about reaching the highest levels of fitness, but for many about taking their body to unhealthy extremes in order to achieve what might be considered a vain outward ideal.

    This is actually one of the things that has kept me from stepping onstage. While I love getting into great shape and dieting down after a successful muscle gaining cycle, the idea of prancing around in a banana hammock to be judged by others and compared to others, seems to me a bit of a mockery of what the entire health and fitness industry SHOULD stand for.

    I’ve actually had the misfortune of dating someone with an eating disorder, and it is an extremely tragic, and often frustrating thing because often the person doesn’t even see it as a problem. When dieting down to get to extremes to meet some sort of external ideal I can see how people could potentially do a lot of harm to themselves.

    I suppose to me what is saddest in this whole thing is that young people look up to some of these people and decide that achieving outward recognition is more important that obtaining a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. It’s a discussion I have with my daughter regularly, as she is just getting to the age where she is feeling pressured to have a certain body image.

    Okay, enough on this depressing subject, let’s hit the gym, eat well and have a great life!!!

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    Video blog #5 – stubborn fat

    Posted: March 30, 2012 in family, fitness

    This is an introductory video blog to some of the causes I’ve been dealing with in the fight against “stubborn fat”.